A fairy tale marriage

Growing up we saw marriage as a fairy tale. The prince always found his true love in the most unique situations and it was always love at first sight. He knew she was the one he wanted to marry and he did whatever it took to make that happen. He rescues his future princess and they happily ever after. Is this just a fairy tale or could this actually happen? Could we too get, “and they lived happily ever after?”

I feel, with the right motivation and the determination we can. But it's all up to us and our heart. In the fairy tale the prince fought for what he wanted, we too need to fight. Marriage isn’t always easy and there will be evil standing in our way trying to destroy our happiness.

Let’s go to God’s Word

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:10-12 NIV

God wants us to find that special person that is confident in themself and will fight for their marriage. The thing is you need to be willing. You need to see the love you have for that person and say no one or nothing will take me away from them. But too often we give up. Too often we get distracted with our thoughts and get pulled away from our marriage. This is because we are all sinful and we think what’s in it for me? We need to allow God to help guide us through our marriage. When our spouse sees that we are showing them love and giving 100%, they too will want to give you their all.

Men and women are made different so we need to see their needs and respect them. Men feel loved when we give them attention, make them feel valued and appreciated. Women feel loved when they feel heard, comforted and appreciated. We need to see where we can show love to our spouse and honor them fully.

Take 15 minutes

In order to receive love the person needs to feel loved. Always take time for your spouse and when you do they will show their love for you back. Give them your undivided attention so they see they are important to you. And when you struggle and don’t see eye to eye, always know where their heart is. That they are wanting the best and not the worst of that situation.

Techniques to help strengthen the marriage

• Make your spouse their favorite morning drink.

• Give them a hug and kiss before you leave for work.

• Leave a love note where they can find it

• Help them around the house

• Take the kids somewhere so they can have some quiet time

• Cuddle up to them while watching tv

• Turn off electronics (cell phone or laptop) to give them some quality time

• Go for walks, play games together

• Always say I love you

Remember what you put into your marriage is what you get out. You can have,” they lived happily ever after” when you’re intentional in showing love.